The best memoirs about traumatic childhoods and dysfunctional families

Jeannette Walls’ mother (and mine) had mental issues; our fathers both were alcoholics. Similarities like these in our destinies struck me, and all this despite her growing up in the US and me growing up in Russia. Some things are just universal. With that, reading and writing memoirs is very therapeutic.

By identifying with this book (and a dozen similar memoirs), I was able to reflect on my own family dynamics and understand my childhood, my bravery, and my struggles for stability. I like to think that, like Mrs. Walls, I was able to find strength through adversity and become a better human being because of this.

I lived Augusten Burroughs’ life while walking in the U.S. National Arboretum through the medium of his audiobook. Augusten Burroughs’ parents had the same issues as my parents, and his life was as eclectic as mine. This allowed me to heal my long-time wounds in a way.

The more I read about the emotional struggles of others, the easier it is for me to fully remember the darkest moments of my childhood. This particular memoir also made it difficult for me to put it down because of its very bizarre plot and dark humor. Additionally, I was fascinated to read about the time before I was born. Isn’t it odd that the world once existed without us?

I listened to this audiobook motionless, with my eyes closed, forgetting that I needed to sleep, drink, or do chores. It’s easy to forget who you are when you are so immersed in a book. Sometimes, I would catch myself in a horrible or elated mood and then realize that I was unable to separate myself from what I listened to or read in the morning.

That's how this book affected me. It was very easy to identify with this story, as it also centers on a dysfunctional family like mine. I also loved the transformative power of knowledge portrayed in this book. Having missed all my Elementary School myself—because of my dysfunctional family—and then having become a teacher as an adult, I hugely appreciate and celebrate Mrs. Westover’s fight for her education.

Yet another memoir that helped me heal my childhood trauma by showing me that I am not alone. There are other girls in this world who suffer, forgive, and continue loving even after going through their tumultuous childhoods with deeply dysfunctional family environments. We are survivors!

Also, Mary Karr is considered to be a master of memoir genre, and many aspiring writers read her books to learn the craft. I am in a group like that, and we often recommend new members of our group to learn to write by Mary Karr’s example.

My stomach was churning while I was listening to Mr. Pelzer’s audiobook. My blood pressure went through the roof, I was crying so hard; I was absolutely in pain. This sweet baby seemingly had a parent from hell.

The book is quite short, so I was able to finish it in one sitting. Many years later, I am still reeling from that experience. Having played a role myself in a social services group in Russia, I know that if a dysfunctional or poor family loves a child, the child can still grow up happy, but if not, the child will need lots of healing. Thank God for the epilogue in this book!